Hey, adults of the world
How about instead of making kids terrified to ever fuck up
You teach them how to cope with the aftermath of fucking up and fix it as best they can
That way they’re not so overwhelmed with anxiety every time there’s even so much as a chance of making mistakes that they never try anything and dread making decisions because of it
And I realized that when people say “It’s a joke, don’t take it so seriously,” they’re really telling you that they see nothing wrong with what they said and they’re not going to apologize for it.
They aren’t saying “I’m a witty person with a cynical view of the world,” they’re saying, “It’s your fault I made you uncomfortable because you let yourself be angered by something offensive I said. I take no responsibility for this.””
“The bottom line is that saying there are differences in male and female brains is just not true. There is pretty compelling evidence that any differences are tiny and are the result of environment not biology,” said Prof Rippon.
“You can’t pick up a brain and say ‘that’s a girls brain, or that’s a boys brain’ in the same way you can with the skeleton. They look the same.”
Prof Rippon points to earlier studies that showed the brains of London black cab drivers physically changed after they had acquired The Knowledge – an encyclopaedic recall of the capital’s streets.
She believes differences in male and female brains are due to similar cultural stimuli. A women’s brain may therefore become ‘wired’ for multi-tasking simply because society expects that of her and so she uses that part of her brain more often. The brain adapts in the same way as a muscle gets larger with extra use.
“What often isn’t picked up on is how plastic and permeable the brain is. It is changing throughout out lifetime
“The world is full of stereotypical attitudes and unconscious bias. It is full of the drip, drip, drip of the gendered environment.”
Prof Rippon believes that gender differences appear early in western societies and are based on traditional stereotypes of how boys and girls should behave and which toys they should play with.”
When dealing with Invisible Illnesses, it’s important to remember, and very easy to forget, to count all Victories, no matter the size. Be generous. Something as simple as making breakfast or putting on shoes count. Nothing is too silly to count as a victory for the day or week.
More black princesses, more black fairies, more black mermaids, more black girls doing all the things, for fucks sake